Now here's an interesting article that is bound to stir up some discussion. It's also on Boundless.org (the web-zine I referred to in the post about Martin Luther). It's about looking for "the one" and settling for "good enough." Surprisingly, it seems to me that the author is encouraging "settling." Read it for yourself and then post a comment - what are your thoughts on settling? Some of us are looking for "the one" and looking for some guidance on what "the one" really means - what do you think "settling" means and how does the article make you feel or think? Some of us have already married and are not any longer - did you settle or do you wish you had settled? Now's a great time to speak your mind or offer advice.
Here's the link to the article, (http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001699.cfm) and I am also going to add boundless.org to the link list over there to the left for anyone who wants to look around on the website more.
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Until a woman is mature enough, really knows herself and is ready for a solid relationship, I believe she will gravitate towards the bad boys of any age. Those relationships don't last, which deep down is fine with her because she doesn't really want it to. If you broken his heart at 25 and now you're ten years older, then your frustration is a sign that you are no longer the prize. He is.
I think the article has a good point. But, if you're a feminist, it's certainly not politcally correct for "modern" women to like guys with these traits:
A man must be a believer.
He must be able and willing to provide for his family.
He must love sacrificially.
He must be honest, have a good reputation and strive for the qualities of a spiritual leader.
In response to al,
I agree with you. I went to a woman's university, so I celebrate the modern woman as much as anybody. But - when I really thought about the list of traits in the article and got over my initial reaction that it could never be read on national television without a feministic backlash, I realized something. Those qualities *are* what matter to me. They *are* what I'm looking for, and they really kind of make the world seem right again. I think that when roles in relationships start crossing lots of traditional lines, it feels more stressful than it does liberating. This article has really changed the way I think about dating right now.
Kim, I agree. There is something very feminine, powerful, and attractive in a lady that can appreciate those traits in a man.
In response to al, and for anybody else keeping up -
I've really taken this list of qualities to look for in a spouse to heart and it has made some amazing changes in my life already. It's prompted me to read more about gender roles within Christianity and it's been quite a ride! I'm going to post a blog about a book I'm reading and I'd love to hear what everyone else thinks about gender roles. Do they have a place in our belief system, or are they archaic to you?
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