It seems that I have a recurring conversation with people. That conversations includes the question - "Would you date a friend?"
My friends are so important to me - if I can only have friends or dates; everytime I would choose friends. With that being said - in response to the question, I like to think that at this point in my life I would only date a friend. I do, however, have one friend that I would not date. I enjoy the relationship that we have now and risking the change that could come with dating is too high a price to pay.
I like the idea of being in a relationship where I can be myself and be honest about who I am (my friends already know). I'm too tired to play all the dating games that go with dating people that you don't know. Even if those games only include pretending that the house is always clean and you are always rested and in a good mood.
My question to you is - "Would you date a friend?" Why or Why not?
3 comments:
Yes, I would. However, I find that most women friends feel like you do when you wrote:
"I enjoy the relationship that we have now and risking the change that could come with dating is too high a price to pay."
So, from women, I'm learning that the answer should be -- NO. What a shame to stay on the sidelines and not risk. It's like having one foot in the grave, already.
I've taken the risk in expressing an interest in dating a friend, and this time it was the *guy* who didn't want to risk the friendship. The conversation itself changed the friendship. Watching the friendship fade was hard, but at the same time, I think that if we were always going to be aware of slight romantic feelings between the two of us, the friendship was not a normal friendship in the first place. In the end, I realized I was putting all of my energy and attention in a relationship that could never grow into the kind I needed. I am glad I began to distance myself from the situation because in not leaning on that person, I was able to meet someone new who is now my best friend and much, much more. When God closes a door, he opens a window...
Yes, I have, and I would again if I wanted her.
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